I CAN tell you, my current Fios TV plan comes with a DVR capable STB and I do not have any DVR service through Fios. So, you "should" be able to ask them to discontinue it remotely. Like you, I use my TiVo for DVR.
That being said, all bets are off when it comes to changing anything (Fios TV related) as far as keeping your CableCARD. So, if you make any changes, insist on keeping your CableCARD and look at the email they provide before you sign anything.