Wife won't delete recordings

Discussion in 'TiVo Coffee House - TiVo Discussion' started by timckelley, Jun 3, 2003.

  1. timckelley

    timckelley run of the mill TCFer

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    I think her mother has a phobia of extra wires in the house. But she does have internet, including wifi. I also have a wireless USB adapter, so she doesn't necessarily have to run a wire all the way to the router, so I'm thinking she could be hooked up that way.
     
  2. Fofer

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    I wouldn’t be so sure about that.
     
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  3. Mikeguy

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    Yep. And depending on the TiVo box model, a separate adapter may not be needed, if it's already built in. Easiest all round, it seems to me, just to add into the WiFi network, avoiding workability issues.
     
  4. Thom

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    Move her shows off your TiVo to a NAS, then install the NAS and her two TiVos at her mother's house. Even if it means buying an extra NAS.
     
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  5. timckelley

    timckelley run of the mill TCFer

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    Except many of her shows are copy protected so you can’t move those to an NAS.
     
  6. Mikeguy

    Mikeguy Well-Known Member

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    Hook the TiVo boxes up and then it's your wife's time to look after her own needs and wants.
     
  7. Thom

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    Buy yourself a new TiVo, and give her your old TiVo that has her shows.

    If you have a NAS or two filled with her shows, give her the NAS and buy yourself a new one. Move the TiVo and the NAS to her mom's house, and her TiVos become her responsibility.
     
  8. timckelley

    timckelley run of the mill TCFer

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    I had powered down her NAS and shut down the laptop that was running pyTivo, but since her TiVo’s are still here recording stuff (and she doesn’t live here anymore), she recently asked me if I can start moving her shows onto the NAS via pyTiVo. I’ve been pretty busy lately but I probably should help her out.

    She’s the one who does the transferring of shows, but she asked me to do it because she’s not in the house and I am. I guess I do have an incentive because my own TiVo (the Bolt) still has shows of hers taking up space.
     
  9. timckelley

    timckelley run of the mill TCFer

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    At some point in the future I’m guessing that the NAS should be set up in her house. But she won’t know how to maintain it. There’s really nothing to do to maintain it except when a hard drive crashes which doesn’t happen often but has happened. What I do then is immediately power the whole thing down before any other drives can crash then buy a new one and replace the bad drive and tell it to rebuild the raid array from the other three drives. (it has a total of four drives.) She’d have no earthly idea how to do any of that and I bet she’ll ask me to do it when the time comes. Of course if she ignores the error messages and doesn’t tell me and waits until a second drive fails, she can start losing her shows. But knowing her if she sees error messages, she almost certainly will text me about them.

    Also I think of a drive fails, an alarm starts going off which is an annoying sound and she’s certainly going to want to do something about that.
     
  10. timckelley

    timckelley run of the mill TCFer

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    Speaking of which she’s not being very quick on this divorce thing. I filed the divorce with the courthouse and sent her a copy of the petition for divorce along with a waiver for being served, and she needs to sign and notarize that so I can return it to the court... it’s been a couple weeks and she still hasn’t signed it.

    I think she’s in no rush for this divorce even though she’s the one who’s been asking for it for years. She’s starting to act like I’m the one that wants the divorce. Actually I believe we both do, but she may be giving other people the impression that I’m the homewrecker.

    Honestly this would never have happened if it weren’t for the fact that for year after year she’s asked me countless times for a divorce so I don’t feel like it’s my fault. I resisted at first but now that I’ve accepted it, I would like to move forward.
     
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  11. Mikeguy

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    I guess that she's going to have to learn how to look out for herself and run her own TiVo box and NAS show.

    If she has shows on your TiVo box, I would transfer them to the NAS--is it her part of the property? if not, I would let her know that you are happy to send it to her, at the cost to her of a replacement NAS for you--and then send the NAS and her TiVo boxes to her, for handling as she wishes. (If there are some shows that cannot be transferred, that's life--she likely can get them elsewhere, if she wants to. I would let her know of this issue and perhaps give her the option of buying your TiVo box from you, if you wish (and if you, then, won't be losing your own shows), at the full cost to her of a new TiVo box plus subscription for you.) And if something happens to the NAS in the future, like a crash, she'll have to handle it, just like other aspects of her own electronics/PC and other life.

    As to the waiver of service of process: I would nicely give her a firm deadline date/time for the return of the signed form to you and in you hands (probably a week, absent some timing issue) and let her know that you understand that she is busy, but that if she doesn't return the signed form to you, in your hands, by that time, you will have to give instructions to have her formally served the next day and that the unfortunate cost will have to be ascribed to her.

    Draw the lines.
     
  12. Edmund

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    Who gets the OFA urc-8820 remote? :)
     
  13. DevdogAZ

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    Spend the $50-75 on a process server and just have her served so you can get the process started. Sounds to me like she'll just keep dragging her feet as long as you'll let her.
     
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  14. timckelley

    timckelley run of the mill TCFer

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    I didn’t know it was that cheap. I’m gonna see her tomorrow so I might mention this to her
     
  15. Thom

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    Using a process server might well ratchet up (by several levels) the unpleasantness of this divorce.
     
  16. Mikeguy

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    Or bring an adult friend with you to hand her a copy of the papers and have her served, and then the friend signing a proof of service form . . . .

    All such a silly waste.
     
  17. Qnapfan

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    <scratches head vigorously> ... after 60+ pages, I am ... intrigued, impressed, depressed and sobered ... all in one instant. My personal take on this ... let the wife have her obsession/quirk. Granted, there would be little logical support to archive these shows to the degree desired, but no one ever said that desires in general had to be logical. The question now becomes 2 fold as I see it - 1. Is this obsession damaging to the wife in any practical or 'real' way, and 2. What are the practical cost factors?

    As for #1, while awkward and potentially irritating, the wifes desire is not life threatening and or catastrophically damaging .. in regards to #2 ... there seems to be a significant long term costing factor ... which depending on the budget in question can become an issue.

    Now, my brain distills this down to a number of fundamentally interlocking goals ... Keep the wife happy, and keep the budget sane. If it were me in this situation, I think I would strive for happiness by creating a VERY ROBUST NAS Node for your wife ... I'd become the network admin (and the wife would be 'trained' to do what she could to contribute to the project). Thing is ... with technology advancing at the pace its going now ... storage is cheap like never before ... (I recently bought and shucked a NAS grade 10 TERABYTE drive for 170$ from Bestbuy (well actually if you factoring in reusing the decent DAS case and free USB drive ... something like 150$ for the drive!) Then buy either a Synology or Qnap 4/8 bay NAS to consolidate your data nodes. 80 raw Terabytes of Networked Storage towards the RAID config of your preference (possibly even 10G enabled)

    ... I think even your wife would have a hard time filling that up for quite some time.

    Bottom line ... storage is cheap and replaceable ... can the same be said of your wife of a quarter century?
     
  18. brianp6621

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    After 60+ pages did you miss the part where they're getting divorced?
     
  19. shwru980r

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    Pack up all of her stuff and put it in the attic. If she asks, tell her all of her stuff is packed and stored in the attic and she can come and take it anytime she wants to. This way, you're not taking legal action against her and you're not putting her stuff on the street. But at the same time, you're letting her know that it's not your responsibility anymore but you will store it for her until she is ready to come and get it.
     
  20. Qnapfan

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    Hahahahaha ... it figures, reading from my phone (and I am thinking, due to the small size) actually missed the last 3-4 pages. My bad ... I actually did miss the 'who dunnit ending' of the murder mystery. Okay, I think I will crawl away in shame now.... :confused: Doh!

    ... and a heartfelt apology to the original poster ... I did not mean to seem callous or contemptuous of your situation. Gomen Kudasai.
     

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