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Wife won't delete recordings

Discussion in 'TiVo Coffee House - TiVo Discussion' started by timckelley, Jun 3, 2003.

  1. Apr 7, 2004 #241 of 1216
    timckelley

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    Oh, I see somebody bumped this. Well for quite awhile now, we haven't had any conflicts between TiVos. There's only two SPs that we both watch which sit on my TiVo, and I simply archive them to VHS when I'm done watching them, so I have scads of room on my unsubbed series 1.

    I've told my wife that if she is struggling too much with space we could consider upgrading her 80 hour TiVo, but I don't think she wants to, because she thinks that if her 80 hour TiVo is full, she's got too much in her Now Playing. Well, it is mostly full still, and she's still constantly archiving to make room for her To Do List.

    The latest is that she consolidated her clothes which used to be in two dressers and one bureau, and was able to free up one entire dresser drawers, and she's using it to store tapes. (The bookcases are all filled up with tapes already.)

    She's admitted to me that she's addicted and wishes that she wasn't, but doesn't know how to break the addiction.
     
  2. Apr 7, 2004 #242 of 1216
    DevdogAZ

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    I would say the first, and easiest thing to try, is to "accidentally" delete some shows from her TiVo before she gets a chance to watch or archive them. She'll be pissed initially, but then she'll realize that the show is gone, there's nothing she can do about it, and she may actually find it liberating to have one fewer show to worry about.
     
  3. Apr 7, 2004 #243 of 1216
    timckelley

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    Hmmm.... do you think I should run this idea by her first, or just surprise her with a lost show? I wonder how safe this is. I fear it may not be safe.


    Correction to my last post: it's not 2 SPs, but 3SPs that we jointly own, residing on my TiVo.
     
  4. Apr 7, 2004 #244 of 1216
    Polcamilla

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    Tim---

    Have her take a look at www.flylady.net --- if she really wants to make a change, this is a GREAT site. Flylady has a fantastic way of making you see how harmful clutter is and hording is and gently reminds you that you need to really love yourself to be able to make the changes you need to in your life.

    Good luck!
     
  5. Apr 8, 2004 #245 of 1216
    JYoung

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    Perhaps a counselor would help?
    As Glen said, there's something else driving this.
     
  6. Apr 20, 2004 #246 of 1216
    timckelley

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    My wife is now complaining that the existence of her TiVo has a sort of beckening effect, sucking her into the room where she spends hours at a time attending to it, causing her to neglect her other duties. She has requested that I sell her TiVo to break her of the addiction.

    I asked her what's to stop her from being drawn to my surviving TiVo. She said that that she'll know it's my TiVo and so will stay away from it. I thought that maybe she was making a rash decision after having a bad day, so I asked her the next day, and she's still standing by her desire to get rid of her TiVo.

    I told her I'm having second thoughts about selling it, because having two standalone TiVos is handy for resolving conflicts. If she really wants to get rid of it, maybe I should take it for myself and become the owner of 2 TiVos while she owns zero. But she feels like she'd still get beckoned by it.

    I suggested how about I remove the TV from the room that has her TiVo, and she admits that would accomplish the same thing, as she won't use her TiVo if there's no TV next to it. However, I could still use it because I have it hooked up to AVcast technology which makes it operable from a different room. (Of couse she could do this too, but doesn't know how.)

    My question to you is: is it excessive for one person (me) to have a series 2 80 hour TiVo (subbed) and a series 1 194 hour TiVo (unsubbed)? It seems like a huge amount of space for me, and I'll never come close to using a large fraction of it, so it makes me think maybe I should sell one. Still, conflict resolution is nice, but on the other hand, I rarely have conflicts. But I won't say never, but there have been conflicts; it just doesn't happen often. Is that justification for hanging on to two TiVos?

    (Note: last night I observed her in the act of being beckened to her TiVo, but it was after our son was asleep, so I don't see the big harm. But she told me that she also attended to it yesterday afternoon while my son was in school, and she had other housework that she really wanted to get done, but didn't.)
     
  7. Apr 20, 2004 #247 of 1216
    David Platt

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    From the behavior that you've reported in this thread, I'm having a really hard time believing that she'll follow through on this.
     
  8. Apr 20, 2004 #248 of 1216
    Marco

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    See JYoung's post, above. Unfortunately, you might have to send TiVo away ... could be akin to not keeping any alcohol in a household that has an alcoholic living in it. Your wife seems to display some traits of OCD and/or and addictive personality. But I'm no professional, so what do I know.
     
  9. Apr 20, 2004 #249 of 1216
    DevdogAZ

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    I think maybe this summer would be a perfect time for both of your TiVos to disappear. Whether you sell them or just hide them is up to you. Let her go 3 months without the ability to record and maybe it will break her of the habit. Then you can decide whether it's safe to bring the TiVo out.
     
  10. Apr 20, 2004 #250 of 1216
    TivoGeezer

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    Sounds like time for "Tivos Anonymous".
     
  11. Apr 20, 2004 #251 of 1216
    timckelley

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    Before making both TiVos disappear, I think I should just make hers disappear and see if she actually tries to use mine. I can always make both disappear if need be, but I really hope that's not necessary.
     
  12. Apr 20, 2004 #252 of 1216
    TivoGeezer

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    Maybe you could turn on the parental controls to keep her from messing with yours.
     
  13. Apr 20, 2004 #253 of 1216
    timckelley

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    Excellent suggestion. If she really wants to be locked out of her TiVo so that she won't yield to temptation, parental controls would accomplish that. I'll see what she says about this.

    Question: Are parental controls available on an unsubbed series one?
     
  14. Apr 21, 2004 #254 of 1216
    ZeoTiVo

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    put parental controls on the Series 2
    put the remote in a locked drawer or hide it , etc.. ask her to box up all the tapes and store them away some where. See if she can do that.

    If she really hits bottom and tries to break the parental controls or get at your remote then she may willingly see she needs a professional that can help her to deal with her TV/TiVo compulsion.
     
  15. May 19, 2004 #255 of 1216
    timckelley

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    I've got some somewhat alarming news to report. All through this thread, I've been assuming my wife has about 100 VHS tapes in the house, because that's what I thought it looked like. Well, the other day, out of curiousity, I counted them.

    Including all the tapes she's bought with movies already on them, plus the blank ones that she's offloaded TiVo onto (the latter is much greater than the former), she's got in excess of 540 VHS TAPES!!! :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

    And the number is still growing.

    Well, I'm just happy that her hobby isn't something more expensive.
     
  16. May 19, 2004 #256 of 1216
    tivoman

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    :D Thats funny, my co-worker collects DVDs and his collection so far is about 1,100 and still growing too plus he has about 4,000 VHS tapes from TV shows and movies.
     
  17. May 19, 2004 #257 of 1216
    timckelley

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    HOLY CHRIST!!!!! :eek: :eek: My wife will probably be happy to hear that her habit is tame compared to some.
     
  18. May 20, 2004 #258 of 1216
    Glen Graham

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    Either that... or she'll go into "high gear" trying to regain her #1 spot from "the competition"

    Still, the that many tapes takes up a lot of room... plus effort, etc. Perhaps she really needs a "work at home" job to focus her efforts on!
     
  19. May 21, 2004 #259 of 1216
    ZeoTiVo

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    TMCkelley should PM all those people posting about recording news feeds etc.. His wife may already have an archive of them
     
  20. May 21, 2004 #260 of 1216
    goofyfanatic

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    If she was taking T.V. that seriuosly then she would have watched the shows already.

    Expanding the drive in the current unit will only tempererly solve the problem. Give it another couple of weeks and the problem will return.

    I think the getting her own box makes the most sense. How much will it cost. Get a refurbed 40 hr unit and the lifetime subscriptsion and you are on your way. Of course when hers gets filled (Which it will) she might just come back to your unit!

    Seth
     

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